Making dates happen is complicated with covid and three kids. Add in our youngest being an infant and we have to get creative. We’ve been doing our best to find time for “dates” together. As a couple, we need time together. So, what do you do?
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
With current covid restrictions, things are limited. We have to be mindful of all of that, but we can still get out of the house. Going for walks around where we live is a must. We always make sure we have our masks and we’ll pop into a local coffee shop. We’ve discovered a couple of favourite local places we love to support, one makes the most dangerously good croissants and sticky buns.
Going to a restaurant isn’t so intimidating when you go right for opening and grab lunch. We may seem “old” by lunch so early, but it’s our little workaround with everything going on and the one way that had made eating in a restaurant feel comfortable for us. On our dates out we often share a meal which helps keep the cost down and we get to try different things. Most recently we shared amazing poutine and soup at the Trading Post’s Fort Langley Eatery.
Heading to the ocean and soaking in the ocean breeze has also been great. Thankfully we don’t live far from the ocean and can head over there any time all while making it back in time for school pickup to get our older two girls.
MAKE IT WORK
My husband loves photography and it sometimes feels like he can’t find time to go out and take photos. So we make it work and turn it into a date outing together. With our third wheel Orie of course! She’s been pretty good about getting loaded into the car and heading out with us on driving adventures to go take photos. I had the idea for us to go and do this together; I don’t mind driving, Jason can sit in the back with Orie and make sure she is happy but also pop out and take photos easily.
This has now become one of our favourite things to do. We’ve smartened up and we’ll pack coffee and some lunch to go and we’ll just drive. It gives us an opportunity to talk without the older girls interrupting us. Neither of us is distracted by something else, or busy with work. Plus the photos Jason is capturing are quickly becoming some of my favourites and I need to get them printed (yes, that just might be part of his Christmas gift this year).
DATE NIGHT IN
Definitely cannot forget about date night in. Once all the girls are tucked into bed and if Jason isn’t working, we’ll have a date night in our own living room. A go-to for us is making fondue. We’ve slowly figured out a recipe we like (we find the store-bought kits are not very good and taste too much like alcohol) and make our own bread to dip into it. We sit back, relax, and put on a movie or find a board game to play.
Finding time to keep the focus on our relationship is so needed, it can really be challenging right now. How do you make time to focus on your relationship?
PHOTO CREDIT TO MY HUBBY @CHASETHELIGHTPHOTO
